Girl, look at that body
Has anyone paid attention to how often we hate something about our bodies? It really doesn't matter what we really look like, everyone hates her belly, arms, neck, breasts... the list is as long as the number of body parts we have!
Then there are the people who spend many thousands to nip, tuck, implant or remove things. There is (as we all know) a booming industry fed off of vanity.
I'm as guilty as anyone. Having lost about 100lbs during my assorted treatments and illnesses, people now say "Oh, you're tiny!" I look in the mirror and I see the scar that bisects my abdomen, the skin that's loose, the sags and other failings. I look at my pictures, and I see all of the flaws on my skin -- moles, discolouration, and faint lines. I don't see myself as "tiny", but I see flaws and I think "Oh, I need to lose some weight!"
We need to be kinder to ourselves. If my friends see me as "tiny" and pretty, why don't I? Instead of focussing on "I don't fit into the pants I wore when I was 5" (see how idiotic that is?) we should focus on being healthy and happy. Which, frankly, does not include forcing ridiculous and extreme diets.
Even with our "I hate my..." moments, people still find us beautiful. If your response to a compliment is to shrug it off, or make some self-deprecating remark, you're really insulting yourself and the person who took the chance to tell you that you are beautiful. And by the way, every time we notice a lovely outfit or hairstyle, we are also acknowledging the beauty of the person.
So here's an exercise for you. When next you compliment someone on her appearance, find something to compliment yourself about also. I'm certain that you'll begin to love yourself a little bit more!
Then there are the people who spend many thousands to nip, tuck, implant or remove things. There is (as we all know) a booming industry fed off of vanity.
I'm as guilty as anyone. Having lost about 100lbs during my assorted treatments and illnesses, people now say "Oh, you're tiny!" I look in the mirror and I see the scar that bisects my abdomen, the skin that's loose, the sags and other failings. I look at my pictures, and I see all of the flaws on my skin -- moles, discolouration, and faint lines. I don't see myself as "tiny", but I see flaws and I think "Oh, I need to lose some weight!"
We need to be kinder to ourselves. If my friends see me as "tiny" and pretty, why don't I? Instead of focussing on "I don't fit into the pants I wore when I was 5" (see how idiotic that is?) we should focus on being healthy and happy. Which, frankly, does not include forcing ridiculous and extreme diets.
Even with our "I hate my..." moments, people still find us beautiful. If your response to a compliment is to shrug it off, or make some self-deprecating remark, you're really insulting yourself and the person who took the chance to tell you that you are beautiful. And by the way, every time we notice a lovely outfit or hairstyle, we are also acknowledging the beauty of the person.
So here's an exercise for you. When next you compliment someone on her appearance, find something to compliment yourself about also. I'm certain that you'll begin to love yourself a little bit more!
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