Granny said…

My late grandmother was a powerhouse of a woman.  She was short – under 5’ tall – and the first adult who was shorter than I was as a child.  (I think I was about 10 when I was taller than she was.)  She was often strict and had some very old-fashioned views (she was born in 1903, so that’s not surprising!)  She was widowed young, with 3 daughters and not much money, but she raised my mother and aunts to be independent in an era when things were very difficult for women of colour. In all things though, we adored her and she returned that with interest.  The anniversary of her death was a few days ago, and I’ve been thinking about the things that I learnt from her that still guide my life.

• Coconut oil is the best thing to use on your skin and hair. 
• Everyone needs to know how to cook.  Make your own meals most of the time – you know what you’re eating, it’s cheaper and it’s much better for you than the stuff you buy.
• But the best that you can afford, and get the most use out of it.  So what if you don’t have the latest model? 
• Always be well-groomed before leaving the house.  You never know who you’ll meet or what you’ll need to do.  Sew on loose buttons, hooks or torn hems as soon as you notice them.
• When there’s someone in need, help them.  Don’t ask for anything in return.
• You are known by the company you keep.  So be sure to spend your time with decent, honest people who value you as a person.  People who value money, colour or goods above other people are not worth wasting your time.
• Girls are as capable as boys. 
• Look after your own money.  Know what comes in, what goes out, and how much is set aside for later.
• Do your work first before you start to play.  Don’t always put off your playtime. 
• Say your prayers every morning and night.  It’s rude to not say “Thank you” to God for all that you have.